support group for carers of those with Borderline personality Disorder or Emotionally unstable personality disorder

support group for carers of those with Borderline personality Disorder or Emotionally unstable personality disorder
Mon Oct 15, 2018 15:11 PM
I am a carer for my daughter who has been suffering from depression since she was 12. It has recently been diagnosed as BPD. I struggle to keep myself positive and keep her managing her emotions and daily living etc. I would like to be able to talk to others who may also have experienced this illness or be going through this too. Please post your details if you would like to communicate your ideas/coping strategies .
Sharon
Re: support group for carers of those with Borderline personality Disorder or Emotionally unstable personality disorder
Fri Oct 19, 2018 22:26 PM

shazzacoles originally posted: I am a carer for my daughter who has been suffering from depression since she was 12. It has recently been diagnosed as BPD. I struggle to keep myself positive and keep her managing her emotions and daily living etc. I would like to be able to talk to others who may also have experienced this illness or be going through this too. Please post your details if you would like to communicate your ideas/coping strategies .
Sharon


Hi Sharon, my name is Claire and I work for Carers First.

Thanks so much for posting 👍 ……. Sounds like it must be challenging.

Just wandering, what do you enjoy? Do you have any hobbies?

Where abouts are you? Claire
Re: support group for carers of those with Borderline personality Disorder or Emotionally unstable personality disorder
Sat Nov 10, 2018 18:17 PM
Hi My daughter has bpd, she is 19yrs now. It is an incredibly challenging diagnosis and so hard as a mum to watch, sometimes with very little support and understanding. Feel free to chat.
Re: support group for carers of those with Borderline personality Disorder or Emotionally unstable personality disorder
Sun Nov 11, 2018 19:43 PM

shazzacoles originally posted: I am a carer for my daughter who has been suffering from depression since she was 12. It has recently been diagnosed as BPD. I struggle to keep myself positive and keep her managing her emotions and daily living etc. I would like to be able to talk to others who may also have experienced this illness or be going through this too. Please post your details if you would like to communicate your ideas/coping strategies .
Sharon

Re: support group for carers of those with Borderline personality Disorder or Emotionally unstable personality disorder
Tue Nov 20, 2018 11:56 AM
hi Sharon, my son is 23 and has asperger, adhd and ocd; he suffers with depression and anxiety also which I find very difficult at times. Is your daughter on medication or receiving therapy. It would be great to chat to you; maybe we can share ideas.
Last edited by Nikkidawn; Tue Nov 20, 2018 13:08 PM.
Re: support group for carers of those with Borderline personality Disorder or Emotionally unstable personality disorder
Sun Nov 25, 2018 10:34 AM
Hi all

I'm Julie and my 18 year old daughter displays symptoms of bpd and sensory issues. Referred to this website by mental health nurse as I also struggle to cope. More than happy to chat. Not sure I have much in the way of answers but maybe by knowing you are not alone can be a great help.
Julie xx
Re: support group for carers of those with Borderline personality Disorder or Emotionally unstable personality disorder
Wed Jan 9, 2019 18:49 PM

JulieG originally posted: Hi all

I'm Julie and my 18 year old daughter displays symptoms of bpd and sensory issues. Referred to this website by mental health nurse as I also struggle to cope. More than happy to chat. Not sure I have much in the way of answers but maybe by knowing you are not alone can be a great help.
Julie xx


Hi Julie

My Name is Ellen and I work for Carers First.

Firstly, well done to your mental health nurse for referring you to us, and secondly have you found some help through our website? Also have you registered with us as a carer? If you have I hope you are already accessing the support we will have available to you, and if you haven't had a chance to register yet here are ways you can do that:
1. By calling our friendly Hub on 0300 303 1555
2. By registering online, following the links and one of our team will give you a call back.

Thank you for posting and please get in touch with the team if you would like some support in your role.
Re: support group for carers of those with Borderline personality Disorder or Emotionally unstable personality disorder
Wed Jan 16, 2019 09:07 AM
Hello. I have only just returned to my post as had long forgotten about it. So many apologies to those who replied as I did not respond. Just seen the Carer's email and saw I had some responses. Its the first time I have posted any thing and not really aware of how it works. This is a difficult path as you feel you are walking on eggshells around the person. And you might feel you are exploding with frustration. Yet , at the same time its so hard to have the patience to accept the behaviour, which you know, and have to accept is part of the condition. However, everybody is different and its the same with bpd. Its a wide spectrum of behaviour as far as I have understood. My daughter is what I would call an `internaliser', whereas others `externalise' their feelings. My friend's daughter with bpd can get very drunk and very vocal. She holds down a job and is talented. She goes off the rails and now has a police record for behaving badly. My daughter is the opposite and will stay in bed for days after she has been out as this is so emotionally exhausting for her. In fact she has a severe problem in leaving the house. There is no way she can go to a job. It is a struggle for her to go out at all. What I found helped was reading books on the subject. " I hate you , don't leave me" was super-informative about the way to talk to someone with bpd. Although most of the rest of the book did not apply at all. I keep going back to it to remind me how to take on a conversation. "Walking on eggshells" is also apparently good, but I haven't read it yet. More recently, mindfulness meditation really supported me in taking a step back and not reacting to behavioural provocation or behaviour issues: taking things personally. I wish I had started this before.
Please keep in touch and I will try to keep an eye on the posts. It would be great to hear from you X
Re: support group for carers of those with Borderline personality Disorder or Emotionally unstable personality disorder
Mon Jan 28, 2019 14:23 PM

shazzacoles originally posted: More recently, mindfulness meditation really supported me in taking a step back and not reacting to behavioural provocation or behaviour issues: taking things personally. I wish I had started this before.
X



I find mindfulness very helpful too, also yoga and chanting and Tia Chi /qigong.

This is seriously the most challenged i have ever been in my life. Just wondering where did this come from ?