“I thought it was normal, running a house at 15”
Elizabeth, 25, has been caring for her mum and dad for over 13 years.
Elizabeth started caring for her parents aged 12 as both had deteriorating health conditions. She became responsible for everything day to day including washing, cooking, helping them get dressed and organising doctor appointments. Looking back, she says “I was never a normal child, never a kid without responsibility.”
Caring forced Elizabeth to grow up fast and has had a lasting effect on her mental health in the form of anxiety. The pandemic and lockdowns have been particularly tough as her dad’s dementia deteriorated and Elizabeth was increasingly exhausted with no opportunity for a break.
Elizabeth had first been referred to Carers First as a teenager, but her anxiety had prevented her from joining in activities. She hadn’t had help in a long time and the pressures of caring during the pandemic led her to give Carers First another try. As fate would have it, she spoke with the same Carers Support Adviser, Tracey, that she had all those years before which helped her relax.
Tracey helped Elizabeth get a Carers Assessment and access 10 hours of respite a week which she didn’t realise she could get. This allowed Elizabeth to go out for the day with her mum for the first time in over 2 years as well as see friends.
She also received a grant for an art activity during the pandemic as well as a surprise hamper from Carers First at Christmas which helped make the family’s Christmas. Tracey is also helping Elizabeth plan for the future including moving out.
Elizabeth says: “there is a difference between hearing about support that might be available and being shown how to access it. Carers First have time for you and make sure you get the support you need.”
“For so long, I thought this was my life and I had to get on with it. Carers First have helped me realise I don’t need to do it all on my own. I feel like I finally have a chance to have my own life, like any other 25-year-old.”
“I wish I had reached out sooner and encourage anyone in a caring situation to not delay seeking help. There is often more support available than you might realise.”
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